Really depressed in my job....career change help?
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Hi all
First time poster in this section but feel i need to reach out for opinion and advice. I'm 38, been with my employer for 20 years and have done many roles during that time (big company). By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work. Occasional overseas travel and some good perks. For the past 3-4 years my feeling of unhappiness has been growing. To a point now where I'm really on edge with it all. Can even go as far to say it brings me to tears. I find my self less and less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while but the same sentiments are still there. I've lost the passion for it essentially.
I've considered going to work somewhere else doing the same/similar job for another company but it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey. Also, i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own which my job is 99% of the time. My team is very small, 3 (down to 2 at the moment). Lots of people are leaving the department and we have a load of new starters. (not in my team)
I've been considering a career change but I have no idea what I want to do. How to go about it, what it means etc.
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
I'm not really sure what questions I have but would like to hear opinion and generally experience.
Have you changed career at nearly 40?
Is it worth talking to someone?
Is a career advisor useful?
Should I talk to my line manager and tell them how I really feel about it all?
Trying to be positive with all this but it's bloody hard, especially reading job listing and realise how many job im totally not qualified for.
Thoughts/opinions go...
First time poster in this section but feel i need to reach out for opinion and advice. I'm 38, been with my employer for 20 years and have done many roles during that time (big company). By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work. Occasional overseas travel and some good perks. For the past 3-4 years my feeling of unhappiness has been growing. To a point now where I'm really on edge with it all. Can even go as far to say it brings me to tears. I find my self less and less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while but the same sentiments are still there. I've lost the passion for it essentially.
I've considered going to work somewhere else doing the same/similar job for another company but it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey. Also, i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own which my job is 99% of the time. My team is very small, 3 (down to 2 at the moment). Lots of people are leaving the department and we have a load of new starters. (not in my team)
I've been considering a career change but I have no idea what I want to do. How to go about it, what it means etc.
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
I'm not really sure what questions I have but would like to hear opinion and generally experience.
Have you changed career at nearly 40?
Is it worth talking to someone?
Is a career advisor useful?
Should I talk to my line manager and tell them how I really feel about it all?
Trying to be positive with all this but it's bloody hard, especially reading job listing and realise how many job im totally not qualified for.
Thoughts/opinions go...
Evo Sean said:
Hi all
First time poster in this section but feel i need to reach out for opinion and advice. I'm 38, been with my employer for 20 years and have done many roles during that time (big company). By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work. Occasional overseas travel and some good perks. For the past 3-4 years my feeling of unhappiness has been growing. To a point now where I'm really on edge with it all. Can even go as far to say it brings me to tears. I find my self less and less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while but the same sentiments are still there. I've lost the passion for it essentially.
I've considered going to work somewhere else doing the same/similar job for another company but it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey. Also, i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own which my job is 99% of the time. My team is very small, 3 (down to 2 at the moment). Lots of people are leaving the department and we have a load of new starters. (not in my team)
I've been considering a career change but I have no idea what I want to do. How to go about it, what it means etc.
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
I'm not really sure what questions I have but would like to hear opinion and generally experience.
Have you changed career at nearly 40?
Is it worth talking to someone?
Is a career advisor useful?
Should I talk to my line manager and tell them how I really feel about it all?
Trying to be positive with all this but it's bloody hard, especially reading job listing and realise how many job im totally not qualified for.
Thoughts/opinions go...
almost reading myself here.First time poster in this section but feel i need to reach out for opinion and advice. I'm 38, been with my employer for 20 years and have done many roles during that time (big company). By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work. Occasional overseas travel and some good perks. For the past 3-4 years my feeling of unhappiness has been growing. To a point now where I'm really on edge with it all. Can even go as far to say it brings me to tears. I find my self less and less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while but the same sentiments are still there. I've lost the passion for it essentially.
I've considered going to work somewhere else doing the same/similar job for another company but it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey. Also, i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own which my job is 99% of the time. My team is very small, 3 (down to 2 at the moment). Lots of people are leaving the department and we have a load of new starters. (not in my team)
I've been considering a career change but I have no idea what I want to do. How to go about it, what it means etc.
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
I'm not really sure what questions I have but would like to hear opinion and generally experience.
Have you changed career at nearly 40?
Is it worth talking to someone?
Is a career advisor useful?
Should I talk to my line manager and tell them how I really feel about it all?
Trying to be positive with all this but it's bloody hard, especially reading job listing and realise how many job im totally not qualified for.
Thoughts/opinions go...
been in IT a long time. analyst roles etc. cant stand it anymore. effort in all jobs is very very low. getting sloppy / mistakes
what stops me changing is the money. id have to start again and with too many bills etc currently to change even if i wanted to
my plan is soon to clear all cards and car, downgrade house
then move into a job i actually want to do.
we spend 5/7ths of our lives doing this. just to what, pay bills? 1 holiday a year? never worth it
do you have high outgoings?
what job would you want to do?
Evo Sean said:
Hi all
First time poster in this section but feel i need to reach out for opinion and advice. I'm 38, been with my employer for 20 years and have done many roles during that time (big company). By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work. Occasional overseas travel and some good perks. For the past 3-4 years my feeling of unhappiness has been growing. To a point now where I'm really on edge with it all. Can even go as far to say it brings me to tears. I find my self less and less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while but the same sentiments are still there. I've lost the passion for it essentially.
I've considered going to work somewhere else doing the same/similar job for another company but it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey. Also, i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own which my job is 99% of the time. My team is very small, 3 (down to 2 at the moment). Lots of people are leaving the department and we have a load of new starters. (not in my team)
I've been considering a career change but I have no idea what I want to do. How to go about it, what it means etc.
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
I'm not really sure what questions I have but would like to hear opinion and generally experience.
Have you changed career at nearly 40?
Is it worth talking to someone?
Is a career advisor useful?
Should I talk to my line manager and tell them how I really feel about it all?
Trying to be positive with all this but it's bloody hard, especially reading job listing and realise how many job im totally not qualified for.
Q
Thoughts/opinions go...
‘ Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.’First time poster in this section but feel i need to reach out for opinion and advice. I'm 38, been with my employer for 20 years and have done many roles during that time (big company). By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work. Occasional overseas travel and some good perks. For the past 3-4 years my feeling of unhappiness has been growing. To a point now where I'm really on edge with it all. Can even go as far to say it brings me to tears. I find my self less and less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while but the same sentiments are still there. I've lost the passion for it essentially.
I've considered going to work somewhere else doing the same/similar job for another company but it just doesn't appeal anymore.
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey. Also, i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own which my job is 99% of the time. My team is very small, 3 (down to 2 at the moment). Lots of people are leaving the department and we have a load of new starters. (not in my team)
I've been considering a career change but I have no idea what I want to do. How to go about it, what it means etc.
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
I'm not really sure what questions I have but would like to hear opinion and generally experience.
Have you changed career at nearly 40?
Is it worth talking to someone?
Is a career advisor useful?
Should I talk to my line manager and tell them how I really feel about it all?
Trying to be positive with all this but it's bloody hard, especially reading job listing and realise how many job im totally not qualified for.
Q
Thoughts/opinions go...
Don’t underestimate just how good these perks are. You have pretty much what everyone wants in their career in their 40’s.
My outgoings are small to medium. Mortgage, small car loan but that's it. No other debts.
Cheap car on the drive. Cheap to run.
Project car in the garage though!
Have a years post tax salary saved.
Wife earns good money.
Technically I could just quit but it's not in my make up to be a dependant or take a risk like that. I'd need something to move onto.
As for what job...no idea! Hands on, creative, making things beyond spreadsheets and PowerPoint.
Is it worth learning a trade? Who would take me on at 40?
Go into renewable but every listing asks for experience.
Feel really stuck.
Cheap car on the drive. Cheap to run.
Project car in the garage though!
Have a years post tax salary saved.
Wife earns good money.
Technically I could just quit but it's not in my make up to be a dependant or take a risk like that. I'd need something to move onto.
As for what job...no idea! Hands on, creative, making things beyond spreadsheets and PowerPoint.
Is it worth learning a trade? Who would take me on at 40?
Go into renewable but every listing asks for experience.
Feel really stuck.
My strong advice is to first seek help to determine the root cause of your current psychology and whether this is indeed linked to your job or is there something else going on. This is really important because you could end up leaving to what you consider is your ideal job only to find that mentally, you're in the same place.
Only professional help can help to determine this.
Do that and one of two beneficial things will emerge.
1: You find out that actually, physically and mentally you're OK so can rule out anything else meaning you can then focus more robustly on your career. That alone will give you a boost helping you make the right decisions.
or
2: There is something going on which will enable the appropriate measures to be taken to help you though it, without the risk and upheaval of leaving what - by the sounds of it - is a pretty sweet, deal job.
So start with your GP and take it from there.
Good luck.
Only professional help can help to determine this.
Do that and one of two beneficial things will emerge.
1: You find out that actually, physically and mentally you're OK so can rule out anything else meaning you can then focus more robustly on your career. That alone will give you a boost helping you make the right decisions.
or
2: There is something going on which will enable the appropriate measures to be taken to help you though it, without the risk and upheaval of leaving what - by the sounds of it - is a pretty sweet, deal job.
So start with your GP and take it from there.
Good luck.
My advice would be to do it, 20 years till retirement is a long time!
Either look for something you fancy even if it’s less money, look for a trainee role or something you have skills for
Alternatively, why not take a course in something? Prehaps a late night collage course to retrain as something else? For instance, my company, a fire and security company is desperate for staff and is taking on people all over to be trainee engineers, with a 2 year program to become qualified in fire alarm, sprinkler, or fire suppression maintenance which is a decent trade and decent money.
I actually left the trade to become a manager but hated it, just couldn’t deal with the office politics, wfh and buzz words, I ended up going back to my previous roll and I’m very happy, sometimes things don’t work out, I think I’m exactly like you, just find sitting at a computer utter dull when you could be out and about meeting new people, seeing parts of the country and using your head and skills to produce something at the end of the project, I feel a great sense of accomplishment when I can stand back and look at a tidy job
My OH was a qualified solictor, he hated it, and ended up leaving for a year to do a masters in HR management, now on a grad scheme with a aerospace company (he’s 31)
It’s never too late to take the leap into something else, and by having savings and your wife being on good money enables you to do this.
Either look for something you fancy even if it’s less money, look for a trainee role or something you have skills for
Alternatively, why not take a course in something? Prehaps a late night collage course to retrain as something else? For instance, my company, a fire and security company is desperate for staff and is taking on people all over to be trainee engineers, with a 2 year program to become qualified in fire alarm, sprinkler, or fire suppression maintenance which is a decent trade and decent money.
I actually left the trade to become a manager but hated it, just couldn’t deal with the office politics, wfh and buzz words, I ended up going back to my previous roll and I’m very happy, sometimes things don’t work out, I think I’m exactly like you, just find sitting at a computer utter dull when you could be out and about meeting new people, seeing parts of the country and using your head and skills to produce something at the end of the project, I feel a great sense of accomplishment when I can stand back and look at a tidy job
My OH was a qualified solictor, he hated it, and ended up leaving for a year to do a masters in HR management, now on a grad scheme with a aerospace company (he’s 31)
It’s never too late to take the leap into something else, and by having savings and your wife being on good money enables you to do this.
StevieBee said:
My strong advice is to first seek help to determine the root cause of your current psychology and whether this is indeed linked to your job or is there something else going on. This is really important because you could end up leaving to what you consider is your ideal job only to find that mentally, you're in the same place.
Only professional help can help to determine this.
Do that and one of two beneficial things will emerge.
1: You find out that actually, physically and mentally you're OK so can rule out anything else meaning you can then focus more robustly on your career. That alone will give you a boost helping you make the right decisions.
or
2: There is something going on which will enable the appropriate measures to be taken to help you though it, without the risk and upheaval of leaving what - by the sounds of it - is a pretty sweet, deal job.
So start with your GP and take it from there.
Good luck.
Thanks for the input and advice. Only professional help can help to determine this.
Do that and one of two beneficial things will emerge.
1: You find out that actually, physically and mentally you're OK so can rule out anything else meaning you can then focus more robustly on your career. That alone will give you a boost helping you make the right decisions.
or
2: There is something going on which will enable the appropriate measures to be taken to help you though it, without the risk and upheaval of leaving what - by the sounds of it - is a pretty sweet, deal job.
So start with your GP and take it from there.
Good luck.
I'm keen to speak to someone, I wasn't aware that a GP would be the best place to start. I guess im of the old school generation of thought in that my problems are small compared to real problems.
I'm 99.9% sure that my problems all stem from work. My home life is pretty great tbh. Happy wife, happy children, all successful in school, Lots of family and things planned etc. Couldn't ask for more tbh.
With work I feel i have no purpose and no 'home'. Maybe a fallout off COVID changes I guess. Less people in the office, less drive to go in because no-one else is there. I need to feel like at the end of the day it wasn't a complete waste of 8.5 hours. I often take some time in the garage to ensure that my day wasnt a complete waste and at least move the project car forward a bit.
Even then I struggle with motivation because im so down with work life.
Right now im leaning towards retraining, evening courses etc. Im happy to take a significant pay cut if it means I have purpose in work.
I changed career at 42, went from working in construction and property for over 20 years and moved into something completely unrelated and back at the bottom of the career ladder, best think I've ever done.
Despite reducing my pay to nearly a third and having to do a part time weekend job, I've never been happier, I spend most of my working day outside travelling around to different areas.
I quit my job and spent 6 months volunteering and doing as many free and cheap online courses as I could. I did this with very little in the way of savings and had to cut back on a lot of things, strangely this was quite liberating and I've massively changed my lifestyle and the way I live, all for the better. I've even been motivated enough to make a start on writing a book.
At the same time my wife moved back into a field that she really loves and has also taken a pay cut, shes never been happier either.
It's never too late to give up something you dislike and pursue something new, you can easily do it without a big financial back up as long as you are happy to make some cutbacks. The hardest decision is deciding what you want to do.
Despite reducing my pay to nearly a third and having to do a part time weekend job, I've never been happier, I spend most of my working day outside travelling around to different areas.
I quit my job and spent 6 months volunteering and doing as many free and cheap online courses as I could. I did this with very little in the way of savings and had to cut back on a lot of things, strangely this was quite liberating and I've massively changed my lifestyle and the way I live, all for the better. I've even been motivated enough to make a start on writing a book.
At the same time my wife moved back into a field that she really loves and has also taken a pay cut, shes never been happier either.
It's never too late to give up something you dislike and pursue something new, you can easily do it without a big financial back up as long as you are happy to make some cutbacks. The hardest decision is deciding what you want to do.
Nickbrapp said:
My advice would be to do it, 20 years till retirement is a long time!
Either look for something you fancy even if it’s less money, look for a trainee role or something you have skills for
Alternatively, why not take a course in something? Prehaps a late night collage course to retrain as something else? For instance, my company, a fire and security company is desperate for staff and is taking on people all over to be trainee engineers, with a 2 year program to become qualified in fire alarm, sprinkler, or fire suppression maintenance which is a decent trade and decent money.
I actually left the trade to become a manager but hated it, just couldn’t deal with the office politics, wfh and buzz words, I ended up going back to my previous roll and I’m very happy, sometimes things don’t work out, I think I’m exactly like you, just find sitting at a computer utter dull when you could be out and about meeting new people, seeing parts of the country and using your head and skills to produce something at the end of the project, I feel a great sense of accomplishment when I can stand back and look at a tidy job
My OH was a qualified solictor, he hated it, and ended up leaving for a year to do a masters in HR management, now on a grad scheme with a aerospace company (he’s 31)
It’s never too late to take the leap into something else, and by having savings and your wife being on good money enables you to do this.
Hi Nick,Either look for something you fancy even if it’s less money, look for a trainee role or something you have skills for
Alternatively, why not take a course in something? Prehaps a late night collage course to retrain as something else? For instance, my company, a fire and security company is desperate for staff and is taking on people all over to be trainee engineers, with a 2 year program to become qualified in fire alarm, sprinkler, or fire suppression maintenance which is a decent trade and decent money.
I actually left the trade to become a manager but hated it, just couldn’t deal with the office politics, wfh and buzz words, I ended up going back to my previous roll and I’m very happy, sometimes things don’t work out, I think I’m exactly like you, just find sitting at a computer utter dull when you could be out and about meeting new people, seeing parts of the country and using your head and skills to produce something at the end of the project, I feel a great sense of accomplishment when I can stand back and look at a tidy job
My OH was a qualified solictor, he hated it, and ended up leaving for a year to do a masters in HR management, now on a grad scheme with a aerospace company (he’s 31)
It’s never too late to take the leap into something else, and by having savings and your wife being on good money enables you to do this.
Where is the company based? I'm in Wakefield.
Evo Sean said:
My outgoings are small to medium. Mortgage, small car loan but that's it. No other debts.
Cheap car on the drive. Cheap to run.
Project car in the garage though!
Have a years post tax salary saved.
Wife earns good money.
Technically I could just quit but it's not in my make up to be a dependant or take a risk like that. I'd need something to move onto.
As for what job...no idea! Hands on, creative, making things beyond spreadsheets and PowerPoint.
Is it worth learning a trade? Who would take me on at 40?
Go into renewable but every listing asks for experience.
Feel really stuck.
In addition to my above post, seriously have a look at volunteering, loads of volunteer opportunities out there and may help you decide on what to go into. It can be very rewarding and along with speaking to your doctor, it may help with your mood. Cheap car on the drive. Cheap to run.
Project car in the garage though!
Have a years post tax salary saved.
Wife earns good money.
Technically I could just quit but it's not in my make up to be a dependant or take a risk like that. I'd need something to move onto.
As for what job...no idea! Hands on, creative, making things beyond spreadsheets and PowerPoint.
Is it worth learning a trade? Who would take me on at 40?
Go into renewable but every listing asks for experience.
Feel really stuck.
I think a doctor would say ‘you know what’s making you unhappy and low, change that rather than try to talk/medicate it away’.
Make the change. The thought of change is infinitely worse than the reality - I was in a similar position and made a significant change and have never looked back.
Make the change. The thought of change is infinitely worse than the reality - I was in a similar position and made a significant change and have never looked back.
Cuting it back a little to the key things you say about yourself/your job,
There's a lot of comfortable-working-practice stuff there that is uncommon, and many people would kill for.
Evo Sean said:
By far my happiest time was the early days when I was lower paid and doing more hands on work.
less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey.
i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
Is there any possibility of moving internally to something that closer matches your preferences?less interested in what we do despite having a recent role change within the past 12 months to try and spice things up. It worked for a while
I'm a really hands on person. I'm much happier creating things rather than being a PowerPoint jockey.
i really prefer to work in a group with people rather than on my own
Additionally, being with a company for 20 yrs means my pay is half decent and the level of comfort and flexibility is huge. No clocking in, left to it, work from home 100% if I want to, come and go to the office as I please. As long as I do my job then I go unnoticed.
There's a lot of comfortable-working-practice stuff there that is uncommon, and many people would kill for.
Silvanus said:
I changed career at 42, went from working in construction and property for over 20 years and moved into something completely unrelated and back at the bottom of the career ladder, best think I've ever done.
Despite reducing my pay to nearly a third and having to do a part time weekend job, I've never been happier, I spend most of my working day outside travelling around to different areas.
I quit my job and spent 6 months volunteering and doing as many free and cheap online courses as I could. I did this with very little in the way of savings and had to cut back on a lot of things, strangely this was quite liberating and I've massively changed my lifestyle and the way I live, all for the better. I've even been motivated enough to make a start on writing a book.
At the same time my wife moved back into a field that she really loves and has also taken a pay cut, shes never been happier either.
It's never too late to give up something you dislike and pursue something new, you can easily do it without a big financial back up as long as you are happy to make some cutbacks. The hardest decision is deciding what you want to do.
what did you change to?Despite reducing my pay to nearly a third and having to do a part time weekend job, I've never been happier, I spend most of my working day outside travelling around to different areas.
I quit my job and spent 6 months volunteering and doing as many free and cheap online courses as I could. I did this with very little in the way of savings and had to cut back on a lot of things, strangely this was quite liberating and I've massively changed my lifestyle and the way I live, all for the better. I've even been motivated enough to make a start on writing a book.
At the same time my wife moved back into a field that she really loves and has also taken a pay cut, shes never been happier either.
It's never too late to give up something you dislike and pursue something new, you can easily do it without a big financial back up as long as you are happy to make some cutbacks. The hardest decision is deciding what you want to do.
Evo Sean said:
StevieBee said:
My strong advice is to first seek help to determine the root cause of your current psychology and whether this is indeed linked to your job or is there something else going on. This is really important because you could end up leaving to what you consider is your ideal job only to find that mentally, you're in the same place.
Only professional help can help to determine this.
Do that and one of two beneficial things will emerge.
1: You find out that actually, physically and mentally you're OK so can rule out anything else meaning you can then focus more robustly on your career. That alone will give you a boost helping you make the right decisions.
or
2: There is something going on which will enable the appropriate measures to be taken to help you though it, without the risk and upheaval of leaving what - by the sounds of it - is a pretty sweet, deal job.
So start with your GP and take it from there.
Good luck.
Thanks for the input and advice. Only professional help can help to determine this.
Do that and one of two beneficial things will emerge.
1: You find out that actually, physically and mentally you're OK so can rule out anything else meaning you can then focus more robustly on your career. That alone will give you a boost helping you make the right decisions.
or
2: There is something going on which will enable the appropriate measures to be taken to help you though it, without the risk and upheaval of leaving what - by the sounds of it - is a pretty sweet, deal job.
So start with your GP and take it from there.
Good luck.
I'm keen to speak to someone, I wasn't aware that a GP would be the best place to start. I guess im of the old school generation of thought in that my problems are small compared to real problems.
I'm 99.9% sure that my problems all stem from work. My home life is pretty great tbh. Happy wife, happy children, all successful in school, Lots of family and things planned etc. Couldn't ask for more tbh.
You may also want to think about a few sessions with a Life Coach. Personally I have mixed feelings about them but there's plenty who swear by them and one may be of help.
Evo Sean said:
My outgoings are small to medium. Mortgage, small car loan but that's it. No other debts.
Cheap car on the drive. Cheap to run.
Project car in the garage though!
Have a years post tax salary saved.
Wife earns good money.
Technically I could just quit but it's not in my make up to be a dependant or take a risk like that. I'd need something to move onto.
As for what job...no idea! Hands on, creative, making things beyond spreadsheets and PowerPoint.
Is it worth learning a trade? Who would take me on at 40?
Go into renewable but every listing asks for experience.
Feel really stuck.
Would going down to 4 days a week be an option? Give you a better work life balance? Could you cope with 4/5ths salary? Sounds like you could. Cheap car on the drive. Cheap to run.
Project car in the garage though!
Have a years post tax salary saved.
Wife earns good money.
Technically I could just quit but it's not in my make up to be a dependant or take a risk like that. I'd need something to move onto.
As for what job...no idea! Hands on, creative, making things beyond spreadsheets and PowerPoint.
Is it worth learning a trade? Who would take me on at 40?
Go into renewable but every listing asks for experience.
Feel really stuck.
I had to change jobs due to Covid enforced redundancy and nearly 3 years later I still don't feel settled. I know my chimp brain is likely to make a decision in haste soon as I am not getting on with my current place, but my human brain knows this is not sensible. I would echo getting to the root cause of the angst is necessary otherwise you will make a change for change's sake and get no real benefit. Better to understand why you want to change and act on that. Covid has impacted everyone and we all have reacted differently.
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