Parents vs brother travelling argument
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Right in the middle of a family feud at the moment.
My brother has announced that he and his girlfriend are going to travel the world including malaysia, thailand & south africa for the world cup. he plans to stay in cheap hostels as he has very little money for the trip.
his girlfriends parents are refusing to let her go but she will defy them and go anyway she says which they are both going to tell them this week.
My parents say it is unfair of him to get involved with her family, he is stupid going to South Africa which next to no money and that he and her would very very vunerable.
Just wondering who may be right. Are these places as bad as my Dad reckons or is he just being a typical parent.
I for one will have no such luxury trying to stay in work and pay my new mortgage and keep the cars on the road. real life sucks eh?!
My brother has announced that he and his girlfriend are going to travel the world including malaysia, thailand & south africa for the world cup. he plans to stay in cheap hostels as he has very little money for the trip.
his girlfriends parents are refusing to let her go but she will defy them and go anyway she says which they are both going to tell them this week.
My parents say it is unfair of him to get involved with her family, he is stupid going to South Africa which next to no money and that he and her would very very vunerable.
Just wondering who may be right. Are these places as bad as my Dad reckons or is he just being a typical parent.
I for one will have no such luxury trying to stay in work and pay my new mortgage and keep the cars on the road. real life sucks eh?!
cs02rm0 said:
Those places aren't that bad. Why not let her go, let her phone home if she needs a ticket back. Job done? At least that way if she gets into trouble she'll be able to get out of there rather than taking off regardless of what they say and then not wanting to phone home.
quite, i have never met her parents so guess that is between her and them 
Unless they are quite serious it might be best for your bros to back out with the other halfs parents!
Other than that i, and many of my compatriors, have (and in some cases) continue to backpack round the world in hostels.
Personally i'd avoid south africa as all the stuff i ever wanted to do down there is just too expensive on a budget!
Other than that i, and many of my compatriors, have (and in some cases) continue to backpack round the world in hostels.
Personally i'd avoid south africa as all the stuff i ever wanted to do down there is just too expensive on a budget!
My cousin has planned about 10 months travelling. Left at the beginning of December.
He had pretty much every aspect of the journey planned, knew where he'd be from each day to the next.
I was worried to start with, but having read and seen the pictures on his blog, he's having an amazing time, and is surrounded by like minded people!
I honestly wish I had gone with him now! It's expensive, but I can tell by looking at some of the pictures, it is definitely worth doing.
I guess it depends on the people, though. If the parents don't think that they are ready for this sort of thing, maybe they are right?
He had pretty much every aspect of the journey planned, knew where he'd be from each day to the next.
I was worried to start with, but having read and seen the pictures on his blog, he's having an amazing time, and is surrounded by like minded people!
I honestly wish I had gone with him now! It's expensive, but I can tell by looking at some of the pictures, it is definitely worth doing.
I guess it depends on the people, though. If the parents don't think that they are ready for this sort of thing, maybe they are right?
You have to think why they are refusing to let her go - because they are worried about her. Sometimes you have to think of the negative impact your fun little trips have on the people back home, and I know I wouldn't be happy lying on a beach enjoying myself whilst my mother is worried stiff for 10mths. Just a bit selfish. How old/mature is she? I know plenty of people at 21ish that were way more mature than me at 30, and well able to cope with the daily grind of travelling.
For what it's worth I know my parents worry alot when I'm off travelling (despite them living in another country anyway and me being 32!). For that reason I tend to be fairly selective on the information I give them about where I'm going and some of the things I've seen.
I'd seriously recommend they go on an "easy" trip first, then possibly come back home. Get used to travelling, get the family used to it then start getting a bit more adventurous. You can tell the newbies off travelling, and they will need to get fairly streetwise quick, but this only takes a few days. It's the little things like booking taxis inside the airport not outside, spreading money out, confindence crossing crazy roads etc. Thailand would be a good start - though they'll never be safe from tricks and cons anywhere.
Last thing - always have a look at the foreign office advice by country (fco.gov.uk) to get clued up to no go areas in a country and the local common tricks. Also do your research and don't travel to a country within +/- 6mths of an election (see: Kenya, Thailand, Indonesia, UK...). Not worth the risk. All that said, when reading through the pages have in the back of your mind what a country profile for the UK would look like. You'd never go to a town centre on a fri/sat night, wouldn't go on the underground for fear of bombings etc...
For what it's worth I know my parents worry alot when I'm off travelling (despite them living in another country anyway and me being 32!). For that reason I tend to be fairly selective on the information I give them about where I'm going and some of the things I've seen.
I'd seriously recommend they go on an "easy" trip first, then possibly come back home. Get used to travelling, get the family used to it then start getting a bit more adventurous. You can tell the newbies off travelling, and they will need to get fairly streetwise quick, but this only takes a few days. It's the little things like booking taxis inside the airport not outside, spreading money out, confindence crossing crazy roads etc. Thailand would be a good start - though they'll never be safe from tricks and cons anywhere.
Last thing - always have a look at the foreign office advice by country (fco.gov.uk) to get clued up to no go areas in a country and the local common tricks. Also do your research and don't travel to a country within +/- 6mths of an election (see: Kenya, Thailand, Indonesia, UK...). Not worth the risk. All that said, when reading through the pages have in the back of your mind what a country profile for the UK would look like. You'd never go to a town centre on a fri/sat night, wouldn't go on the underground for fear of bombings etc...
South Africa is an excellent back-packing destination, and thousands visit it every year for this purpose - it is very well set up for back-packers with cheap buses and hostels. I've not done it properly, but have stayed in quite a few hostels. Very cheap, and generally speaking only dangerous if you make it so (although lethal crime can be absolutely random).
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