(Flame proof clothes on) Am I a bad person for this?

[Nobody You Know]

O.K I'm 25 have met a really nice girl who is about to turn 17, she is interesting and independant turning into a bit of a Petrolhead (asked me to service and check her 1st car, enjoys lifts in my S4) and is very pretty.

Any other situation and I would ask her out no problems but this nagging feeling of wrongness in the eyes of others is playing on my mind, I feel I may be seen as wierd if anything happens.

I have no problem with age difference 'pre se' my previous GF was 8 years older than me. This situation is making me a little uncomfortable though, not for me but how it may look to others.

I wouldn't go after girls this age but have just met her by proxy and I have started to mull it over in my head.

Should I ignore the feeling and get on with it or is it a bit innapropriate?

PS for those who will innevitably asked there will be no pictures.

[Urban_Ninja]

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[Sheets Tabuer]

If you are 25 and she is 16 I think you are a bit of a perv.

If she was my sister I would be locking you in my car boot and driving you to the woods for a laugh (you understand officer).

Edited by Sheets Tabuer on Saturday 14th March 02:52

[King Herald]

Nobody You Know said:

O.K I'm 25 have met a really nice girl who is about to turn 17, she is interesting and independant turning into a bit of a Petrolhead (asked me to service and check her 1st car, enjoys lifts in my S4) and is very pretty.

Any other situation and I would ask her out no problems but this nagging feeling of wrongness in the eyes of others is playing on my mind, I feel I may be seen as wierd if anything happens.

I have no problem with age difference 'pre se' my previous GF was 8 years older than me. This situation is making me a little uncomfortable though, not for me but how it may look to others.

I wouldn't go after girls this age but have just met her by proxy and I have started to mull it over in my head.

Should I ignore the feeling and get on with it or is it a bit innapropriate?

PS for those who will innevitably asked there will be no pictures.

Well, what IS the feckin' problem? She's 17, not 7, old enough to legally pork, so what's the big deal?

[mybrainhurts]

Nobody You Know said:

asked me to service and check her

[Nobody You Know]

Sheets Tabuer said:

If you are 25 and she is 16 I think you are a bit of a perv.

If she was my sister I would be locking you in my car boot and driving you to the woods for a laugh (you understand officer).

Edited by Sheets Tabuer on Saturday 14th March 02:52

This is the point, my sister is a similar age and I feel if a 25 year old was after her I would have words to say to him.

It's not really a lust thing, more a 'personality attraction' if that makes sense.

I think 'No' is going to be the answer.

Edited by Nobody You Know on Saturday 14th March 04:15

[Tadite]

King Herald said:

Well, what IS the feckin' problem? She's 17, not 7, old enough to legally pork, so what's the big deal?

Don't go on vacation to the states or otherwise you get to go to jail!

But beyond that these two are at a different state in their lives. It is a social no no. If I found someone this old with my highschool age relative me and him would be having words...

[MGJohn]

Nobody You Know said:

O.K I'm 25 have met a really nice girl who is about to turn 17, she is interesting and independant turning into a bit of a Petrolhead (asked me to service and check her 1st car, enjoys lifts in my S4) and is very pretty.

Any other situation and I would ask her out no problems but this nagging feeling of wrongness in the eyes of others is playing on my mind, I feel I may be seen as wierd if anything happens.

I have no problem with age difference 'pre se' my previous GF was 8 years older than me. This situation is making me a little uncomfortable though, not for me but how it may look to others.

I wouldn't go after girls this age but have just met her by proxy and I have started to mull it over in my head.

Should I ignore the feeling and get on with it or is it a bit innapropriate?

PS for those who will innevitably asked there will be no pictures.

"Wrongness" ... no way...That's no big deal ~ Invite her out anyway ~ just do not be in a hurry to rush things. Important thing is, do you enjoy her company enough now to want her as a friend and do you think/suspect she feels the same way?

By a freak* of circumstances, when I was 25 I met a girl of 17 and we became friends. We enjoyed each others company and I taught her to drive in my MGB. A year later she passed her test first time still only 18. Five years later we married and twelve years after that, she decided a couple of kids would be nice. Not too keen me then as we both had well paid jobs ( typical DINKies ) and kids are big lifestyle adjustment changers. However, she got her way and my two sons, now in their twenties, are the best thing that ever happened to me.

• That 'freak' of circumstance was that her best friend, took a fancy to my younger brother. She invited me to her party, thinking I was my brother ~ although I did not know that confusion at the time. I became aware of it sometime later. In the event we both went to the party and for a while, we were a couple of couples.... All that was 42 years ago now ~ my better half is both my best friend... and occasionally, my worst enemy ...

That eight year age difference between us becomes less with each passing year ~ it's all relative.

Funny old game life ...


Good luck ~ something we all could do with.
So, if the idea appeals, go for it .... at a moderate pace to start with... see how it goes.

P.S. Has a car at sixteen ... does she drive it or ....
.

[Nobody You Know]

MGJohn said:

Nobody You Know said:

O.K I'm 25 have met a really nice girl who is about to turn 17, she is interesting and independant turning into a bit of a Petrolhead (asked me to service and check her 1st car, enjoys lifts in my S4) and is very pretty.

Any other situation and I would ask her out no problems but this nagging feeling of wrongness in the eyes of others is playing on my mind, I feel I may be seen as wierd if anything happens.

I have no problem with age difference 'pre se' my previous GF was 8 years older than me. This situation is making me a little uncomfortable though, not for me but how it may look to others.

I wouldn't go after girls this age but have just met her by proxy and I have started to mull it over in my head.

Should I ignore the feeling and get on with it or is it a bit innapropriate?

PS for those who will innevitably asked there will be no pictures.

"Wrongness" ... no way...That's no big deal ~ Invite her out anyway ~ just do not be in a hurry to rush things. Important thing is, do you enjoy her company enough now to want her as a friend and do you think/suspect she feels the same way?

By a freak* of circumstances, when I was 25 I met a girl of 17 and we became friends. We enjoyed each others company and I taught her to drive in my MGB. A year later she passed her test first time still only 18. Five years later we married and twelve years after that, she decided a couple of kids would be nice. Not too keen me then as we both had well paid jobs ( typical DINKies ) and kids are big lifestyle adjustment changers. However, she got her way and my two sons, now in their twenties, are the best thing that ever happened to me.

• That 'freak' of circumstance was that her best friend, took a fancy to my younger brother. She invited me to her party, thinking I was my brother ~ although I did not know that confusion at the time. I became aware of it sometime later. In the event we both went to the party and for a while, we were a couple of couples.... All that was 42 years ago now ~ my better half is both my best friend... and occasionally, my worst enemy ...

That eight year age difference between us becomes less with each passing year ~ it's all relative.

Funny old game life ...


Good luck ~ something we all could do with.
So, if the idea appeals, go for it .... at a moderate pace to start with... see how it goes.

P.S. Has a car at sixteen ... does she drive it or ....
.

Thankyou very heartwarming story.

It's not a lust thing, there are plenty of loose 17 year olds around.

She has saved and bought her own car, she is doing a 'pre learner' course on an airfeild to pass her test as soon as possible and be on the road.

[sjc]

Nobody You Know said:

MGJohn said:

Nobody You Know said:

O.K I'm 25 have met a really nice girl who is about to turn 17, she is interesting and independant turning into a bit of a Petrolhead (asked me to service and check her 1st car, enjoys lifts in my S4) and is very pretty.

Any other situation and I would ask her out no problems but this nagging feeling of wrongness in the eyes of others is playing on my mind, I feel I may be seen as wierd if anything happens.

I have no problem with age difference 'pre se' my previous GF was 8 years older than me. This situation is making me a little uncomfortable though, not for me but how it may look to others.

I wouldn't go after girls this age but have just met her by proxy and I have started to mull it over in my head.

Should I ignore the feeling and get on with it or is it a bit innapropriate?

PS for those who will innevitably asked there will be no pictures.

"Wrongness" ... no way...That's no big deal ~ Invite her out anyway ~ just do not be in a hurry to rush things. Important thing is, do you enjoy her company enough now to want her as a friend and do you think/suspect she feels the same way?

By a freak* of circumstances, when I was 25 I met a girl of 17 and we became friends. We enjoyed each others company and I taught her to drive in my MGB. A year later she passed her test first time still only 18. Five years later we married and twelve years after that, she decided a couple of kids would be nice. Not too keen me then as we both had well paid jobs ( typical DINKies ) and kids are big lifestyle adjustment changers. However, she got her way and my two sons, now in their twenties, are the best thing that ever happened to me.

• That 'freak' of circumstance was that her best friend, took a fancy to my younger brother. She invited me to her party, thinking I was my brother ~ although I did not know that confusion at the time. I became aware of it sometime later. In the event we both went to the party and for a while, we were a couple of couples.... All that was 42 years ago now ~ my better half is both my best friend... and occasionally, my worst enemy ...

That eight year age difference between us becomes less with each passing year ~ it's all relative.

Funny old game life ...


Good luck ~ something we all could do with.
So, if the idea appeals, go for it .... at a moderate pace to start with... see how it goes.

P.S. Has a car at sixteen ... does she drive it or ....
.

Thankyou very heartwarming story.

It's not a lust thing, there are plenty of loose 17 year olds around.

She has saved and bought her own car, she is doing a 'pre learner' course on an airfeild to pass her test as soon as possible and be on the road.

Sounds like she' a good-un, go for it.When your 30 and she's 22 everyone will be jealous as fk!

[spenvalleyviking]

Age is not that important mate. I split up with my ex just over three years ago, when I was 31.

Had a second job as a bar supervisor in a club, and about six months after the split starting seeing a young lady who I had known for about 18 months who worked with me. She was 19 at the time.

We are getting married in September

[bluetone]

Go for it, though be aware her parents will more than likely take a dim view...

[EINSIGN]

Pictures?

[LaserTam]

You might face some 'issues' from her family initially, but if they can see your intentions, that will fade in time.

My older sister started seeing a 30 year old when she was just turned 16. (Not sure exactly how they met!) My parents were none too chuffed as you can imagine. Difficult time, lots of arguments (I was only 10!) she moved out at 18, into his place. Not much contact with sister for a few years. Fast forward over 25 years - sister has two kids, one has nearly completed her teacher training, still with the same fella, and my Mum and her are inseperable - Time is a great healer

[mikechandler]

MGJohn said:

Invite her out anyway ~

Just not to an 18 showing at the cinema or a bar (unless she is on kiddy juice)

[Dave_ST220]

My wife was 17 when i met her, you guessed it i was 25. We've been married 4 years and have a 16 month old daughter!

ETA, been together nearly 10 years.

Edited by Dave_ST220 on Saturday 14th March 07:36

[Tunku]

I don't see the problem. My father was 15 years older than my mother.

[Lord Pikey]

No issue. I am 27 and my other half is 18.

Enjoy it why you can matey.

It only gets saggier and wrinklier from here on in!

[mrmaggit]

Oh just get on with it, man.

Before somebody else does.

[Pulse]

As everyone else has said, go for it.

It sounds like you've found someone who is genuinely mature for her age, and that is a rare thing to find.

I had a similar concern when my and my OH first met. She was 3 years younger than me, but had the maturity of someone older. If she had been a typical 17 year old, I wouldn't have gone near. Almost 5 years on, and we're still very happy, enjoying life, and enjoying the house we bought together 18 months ago.