Minor dilemma - Ex's, parties etc.
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Todays minor dilemma for the collective's opinion. It's my eldest's birthday today 
The ex wants to spend time with our daughter as do I, so the plan is to rendezvous at Pizza Hut later, have pizza with her, her sister and two of her friends and then go our seperate ways. Tuesday evening is normally the start of my time with the kids, but I'm pretty flexible about things. This way every one gets more out of the time available. All was fine.... Until.
Apparently her BF has thrown all his toys out of the pram. I can see his point, might look a bit too cosy etc. but he's never made any effort to be particularly friendly despite my attempts at conversation. I'm kinda tempted to invite him along, but why should I? The main thing is I don't want any sort of an atmosphere or distractions while I'm celebrating my daughters birthday. It should be about her, not about any adult squabbles.
It's too late to invite my GF along so it would be just me and them as a couple. My ego is big enough to handle that, but should I make the offer? Part of me thinks I'm rewarding a bloke who normally blanks me for behaving like a spoilt child, but part of me wants an easy life for my daughter.
This is not about the merits or otherwise of Pizza Hut, that's my daughters choice
The ex wants to spend time with our daughter as do I, so the plan is to rendezvous at Pizza Hut later, have pizza with her, her sister and two of her friends and then go our seperate ways. Tuesday evening is normally the start of my time with the kids, but I'm pretty flexible about things. This way every one gets more out of the time available. All was fine.... Until. Apparently her BF has thrown all his toys out of the pram. I can see his point, might look a bit too cosy etc. but he's never made any effort to be particularly friendly despite my attempts at conversation. I'm kinda tempted to invite him along, but why should I? The main thing is I don't want any sort of an atmosphere or distractions while I'm celebrating my daughters birthday. It should be about her, not about any adult squabbles.
It's too late to invite my GF along so it would be just me and them as a couple. My ego is big enough to handle that, but should I make the offer? Part of me thinks I'm rewarding a bloke who normally blanks me for behaving like a spoilt child, but part of me wants an easy life for my daughter.
This is not about the merits or otherwise of Pizza Hut, that's my daughters choice
B17NNS said:
Be the bigger man and invite him.
I agree. Not got time to write a whole lot today but would also ask your daughter what SHE would like.
Best behaviour and be the great dad that I am sure you are, if he decides to act the
then that is what he will look like. No consolation if it puts a stain on her day but it wont be your fault. 
Invite him along! Doesn't sound like you will be bothered by his presence. If it helps to keep the peace all round!
B17NNS said:
Be the bigger man and invite him.
Gets my vote too. If it doesn't go some way towards appeasing your relationship with him (which is, of course, beneficial to the kids) at least you can relax in the knowledge you're a bigger man than he is.
Oh, and happy birthday to JuniorBliarOut from the PH collective!
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