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It certainly both.
In fact, only today we were talking to Kinky Juniors teachers at school (he's 4).
They were saying how amazingly confident he is in school, and he's the leader, and everyone follows him.
And he's the youngest in the class.
And if you pop round to Chez Kinky, he'll probe you about who you are, what you do, what car you drive
and so on. Whereas some of his mates that I know literally go into hiding in the same situation.
In later life - I think it splits into 2. If you are presenting or talking on a topic you know well, then you're confident, as you know the subject matter.
General day to day stuff is a different matter. And that's what you can learn.
I think.
K
In fact, only today we were talking to Kinky Juniors teachers at school (he's 4).
They were saying how amazingly confident he is in school, and he's the leader, and everyone follows him.
And he's the youngest in the class.
And if you pop round to Chez Kinky, he'll probe you about who you are, what you do, what car you drive
and so on. Whereas some of his mates that I know literally go into hiding in the same situation. In later life - I think it splits into 2. If you are presenting or talking on a topic you know well, then you're confident, as you know the subject matter.
General day to day stuff is a different matter. And that's what you can learn.
I think.
K
Harry Flashman said:
You learn it. It's something you have when you are happy with yourself and your surroundings.
Easy to veer into arrogance though, which should be discouraged completely.
god, do you ever stop going on about how brilliant you are? sheesh. i for one am growing tired of it (but then i am awesome)
Whatever you do, don't sign up to God and disappear into the church.
If lack of confidence is really messing up yours or someone else's life, the best thing IMHO is ask the GP for a referral to a clinical psychologist. They can unfold those bits of the mind that have managed to keep hidden, and those are where the answers usually lie.
If lack of confidence is really messing up yours or someone else's life, the best thing IMHO is ask the GP for a referral to a clinical psychologist. They can unfold those bits of the mind that have managed to keep hidden, and those are where the answers usually lie.
You can inherit confidence from your ancestors,some are naturally introvert and some naturally extrovert, although depending on your upbringing your confidence can easily be knocked and damaged and it is down to how your parents nurture and guide you in how you overcome knocks.
I feel if your parents are settled and provide you with happy family surrounding then in general that should play a big part in your confidence.
Confidence can have many connections and links to other feelings and mental conditions such as sensitivity,anger,frustration,depression,patience,physical condition etc and if you can get a happy balance in life between all of your feelings then you can build your own confidence but its like all things in life some people it comes easy others have to work hard at it although ive found its not worth lingering on your weak points compared to others as you will normally find you do excell in other areas.
I feel if your parents are settled and provide you with happy family surrounding then in general that should play a big part in your confidence.
Confidence can have many connections and links to other feelings and mental conditions such as sensitivity,anger,frustration,depression,patience,physical condition etc and if you can get a happy balance in life between all of your feelings then you can build your own confidence but its like all things in life some people it comes easy others have to work hard at it although ive found its not worth lingering on your weak points compared to others as you will normally find you do excell in other areas.
I am not confident socially but have no problems standing on stage infront of 1000 people and performing or doing presentations etc. I think it is a case of getting used to being on stage whereas social interaction is much harder to get used to. I'm not that great at making conversation, its rather a shame becuase im really a very nice person. Infact I'm great.
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