Personality Clashes
Discussion
I tend to get on with nearly everyone I know or meet. 
However, we've recently had a new guy join the company. For whatever reason, we just don't seem to connect, at all.
Its weird. He's on the same management level as me (although different division) but I can't see it being related to this.
Its just so hard to hold a conversation. Really, really odd. There seems to be an invisible 'repellent zone'.
Anyone else experienced similar? Why is this?
However, we've recently had a new guy join the company. For whatever reason, we just don't seem to connect, at all.
Its weird. He's on the same management level as me (although different division) but I can't see it being related to this.
Its just so hard to hold a conversation. Really, really odd. There seems to be an invisible 'repellent zone'.
Anyone else experienced similar? Why is this?
I had an interview a fortnight ago, with someone who I simple couldnt connect with on any level.
After many years of sales and customer service, I can build some sort of rapport with nearly anyone yet this time, nothing. At all.
I actually terminated the interview early, "we're both wasting are time here arent we" was my line, she agreed completely.
I've had to work with people on a few occasions where there is just no rapport and an invisible "reppelling" zone, but in those cases these people have been extremely acerbic and unfriendly (at least to me!) - which is damn difficult to break through.
After many years of sales and customer service, I can build some sort of rapport with nearly anyone yet this time, nothing. At all.
I actually terminated the interview early, "we're both wasting are time here arent we" was my line, she agreed completely.
I've had to work with people on a few occasions where there is just no rapport and an invisible "reppelling" zone, but in those cases these people have been extremely acerbic and unfriendly (at least to me!) - which is damn difficult to break through.
WildfireS3 said:
Yep, I like to think of myself as a pretty agreeable guy who tries to get on with everybody, but once in a while I meet a person who really rubs me the wrong way and it is just impossible to get along.
The opposite also happens - where I have met people and automatically "clicked". Perhaps its Dawkin's "Selfish Gene" telling us who would make a good genetic mate and whose genes to avoid?
lazyitus said:
Anyone else experienced similar? Why is this?
Had similar occasions. Can probably put most of the occurences down to one of two situations:
1. They don't get my way of thinking. They're not working for a company to make the company rich; they're not "value oriented" (if you'll let me slip in some managementese). They're out for an easy life of sitting behind a desk and being officious to the point of detriment to the company. Even though, technically, they could be good at their job.
2. They have negative character traits that I see in myself.
I had a cracking one with my tutor for Teacher Training. Academic integrity, that hides a lot of charlatans and lazy idiots. I knew when I met her that I was wasting my time, I was destined to fail and I could see the others who were going to also.
She was a lazy, messy, stupid woman who rotted my bones, she was foul, played the left handed, lesbian, single mother on disability benefit card all the time. I was civil and behaved myself. I just think it must have been non-verbal clues which gave me away.
She was filthy and she stunk, my feelings got more polarised as I got put through her twisted mill with the firm knowledge that she was hiding behind a "New Labour" style wall of party support and professional integrity.
Out of all the people I have met, I have never been so rotted to the core by a person, she made me livid and spitting. If I had a gun with one bullet. I would have fashioned the shell casing into a rough pair of pliers and plucked out her furry moustache.
She beat me into a pulp and then smugly pulled the "My integrity is numero uno spiel". A lying, foul beast of a left wing lesbian, inclusive, shit spouting, horrible piece of furry, flowery, cuddly, plump
mother figure who I wanted to beat with a stick.
:christaliveIneedtostartsmokingagain:
She was a lazy, messy, stupid woman who rotted my bones, she was foul, played the left handed, lesbian, single mother on disability benefit card all the time. I was civil and behaved myself. I just think it must have been non-verbal clues which gave me away.
She was filthy and she stunk, my feelings got more polarised as I got put through her twisted mill with the firm knowledge that she was hiding behind a "New Labour" style wall of party support and professional integrity.
Out of all the people I have met, I have never been so rotted to the core by a person, she made me livid and spitting. If I had a gun with one bullet. I would have fashioned the shell casing into a rough pair of pliers and plucked out her furry moustache.
She beat me into a pulp and then smugly pulled the "My integrity is numero uno spiel". A lying, foul beast of a left wing lesbian, inclusive, shit spouting, horrible piece of furry, flowery, cuddly, plump
mother figure who I wanted to beat with a stick. :christaliveIneedtostartsmokingagain:
I find there are a fair few 'personality types' I clash with: Environmentalists, activists with no actual personal interests, idealists, rabid left-wingers, rabid right-wingers, people with no sense of irony, people who seem to treat life as nothing more than just existing, people with no time for a bit of culture, people who slag off my taste in music without actually having heard any but making judgements based on the artist's hairstyles...
...sorry, I've had a bit of a bad day.
...sorry, I've had a bit of a bad day.
love machine said:
I had a cracking one with my tutor for Teacher Training. Academic integrity, that hides a lot of charlatans and lazy idiots. I knew when I met her that I was wasting my time, I was destined to fail and I could see the others who were going to also.
She was a lazy, messy, stupid woman who rotted my bones, she was foul, played the left handed, lesbian, single mother on disability benefit card all the time. I was civil and behaved myself. I just think it must have been non-verbal clues which gave me away.
She was filthy and she stunk, my feelings got more polarised as I got put through her twisted mill with the firm knowledge that she was hiding behind a "New Labour" style wall of party support and professional integrity.
Out of all the people I have met, I have never been so rotted to the core by a person, she made me livid and spitting. If I had a gun with one bullet. I would have fashioned the shell casing into a rough pair of pliers and plucked out her furry moustache.
She beat me into a pulp and then smugly pulled the "My integrity is numero uno spiel". A lying, foul beast of a left wing lesbian, inclusive, shit spouting, horrible piece of furry, flowery, cuddly, plump
:christaliveIneedtostartsmokingagain:
Dont wrap it up, tell us what you really think.
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