Text / Phone calls when drunk Help needed

[phib]

From my other post as part of my weekend the following happened with a young lady I have been seeing for a while whilst on a night out with her a a group of people:


5. Got very drunk

6. Then text / phone convesation (when drunk whilst she was on the way home) not good at all / made prat of myself just not sure how much yet. (It could be as bad as she may never talk to me again) I know it was bad from the sent and recieved text messages tp say the least

Does anyone have any ideas how to try and recover this sort of situation as I am now feeling a bit desperate to say he least, flowers are not an option nor is sending anything to her.

My only options are e-mail or phone (proabably not a good idea after friday) I don't know if to leave it a few days or to get in touch tommorow and try and appologise but how ?

Help


>>> Edited by phib on Monday 20th December 09:34

[simpo two]

Well, if she can forgive you she's worth it, if she can't, she's not.

[edelbrock]

just send a text apologising for your drunken outburst would be the sensible way

[tvrgit]

and don't do it again...

[phib]

Do you really think another text would be sensible ?? I had kind of decided on an e-mail (in fact I have tried to write one about 20 times today, and have sent nothing !!!) ? Less in your face

[2 Smokin Barrels]

tvrgit said:

and don't do it again...

until the next time!

[tvrgit]

2 Smokin Barrels said:

tvrgit said: and don't do it again... until the next time!

Well if that's the intention, best to just leave it off, now...

[edelbrock]

just hit those buttons,it will make you feel alot better when you have done it

[phib]

Trust me if i can get past this, its something I will never be doing ever again even if it meant I had to give up drinking !!!!!!

[2 Smokin Barrels]

edelbrock said:

just hit those buttons,it will make you feel alot better when you have done it

....but what happens if you don't get a reply?

[phib]

Exactly !!!!!!!!!!!

[edelbrock]

shit happens as they say

[2 Smokin Barrels]

If it's meant to happen it will. If not, move on!!

[simpo two]

A *real* phone call is more personal than text or e-mail. You know, where you speak into the phone... that way you can tell the temperature of the water and do your grovelling before she steals herself for an icy reply. Just take your time and be genuine - the last thing she wants to hear is some desperate emotional male!

[__LEE__]

I would email her very quickly to appologise for your actions, and send her a txt saying you have sent her a email.

She needs to know that she means something to you and that you care about her feelings and you want to make it upto her.

If she doesn't want to see you afterwards, then you will have to accept that but don't let her go because you didn't try.

[MilnerR]

Whatabout a hand written letter? Its a lot more personal than text or email, it gives you time to articulate your thoughts and given the vagaries of the postal system it won't get there for a day or two which will give both of you time to reflect.
Depends on how bad the outburst was. I destroyed a long term relationship (several years) with a drunken outburst (really really bad) that soured the friendship. If you can rescue the friendship things will be ok. If you said some things which can't be taken back you might well be up shit creak i'm afraid.

[simpo two]

MilnerR said:

Whatabout a hand written letter?

Genius! How on earth can you deal with a delicate emotional subject by bloody text or e-mail???? For heavens sake!

[__LEE__]

simpo two said:

MilnerR said: Whatabout a hand written letter? Genius! How on earth can you deal with a delicate emotional subject by bloody text or e-mail???? For heavens sake!

A lot of people often find it easier to express themselves with a written letter/email than trying to do it face to face. I certainly find it easier to write about things like this.




Edited because I can't spell, maybe face to face is a better idea for me

>> Edited by __LEE__ on Sunday 19th December 22:18

[lanciachris]

Im hopeless for texting people when drunk, so I stopped taking my phone with me when going drinking. Now i only send like one or two before I pass out when i get home - much less hassle than a whole evenings worth!

[phib]

I have no issues with calling her, driving 200 miles to see her / texting or e-mailing.

I am just trying to take the right descision, at the moment I am leaning towards just picking up the phone in the morning and calling.

Whats the worst that can happen ? She can slam down the phone ( and then e-mail) o she has a massive go and we either finnish it there and then or we try to move on.

What makes it even worse is that we will continue to see each other from time to time through work !!!!!!

Phib ducks and runs for cover !!!!!