How long does it take for a woman

[srebbe64]

..to forgive a bloke. A few months ago I popped out to see a friend one Saturday and I made an ‘impulse purchase’. I bought myself a top notch TVR. She knew I’d been window shopping, but I don’t think she actually thought I’d be so crazy as to go through with it. Anyway, every time we have a “few words” (as you do, occasionally) she brings it up again. “We need to talk about spending this sort of money”, she says. I say “if I’d talked about it with you, you’d have said ‘no way, waste of money’”, so I didn’t bother to have the conversation!

Also, I got a substantial bonus last month and elected to give 25% of it to charity. She went up the wall – she’s got down again now. Anyway, am I being old fashioned by having the attitude of:

I earn a good salary which more than provides for the family (nice house, decent holidays, private schooling, no mortgage, etc) – no one in my family wants for anything and I still save a fair few bob each month. I fully admit that I landed on my feet in life, by starting a successful company (despite making every conceivable mistake!). As such, I’m entitled to give what I like to charity and occasionally act impulsively. I said to her “you can buy whatever you like with my earnings”. I don’t think I’m being unreasonable, but the problem is, I think, as a bloke I’m looking at the situation ‘logically’. This, I think, is where men and women differ.

[PetrolTed]

Err... you're in a marriage. Shouldn't you make these decisions together?

[srebbe64]

PetrolTed said:

Err... you're in a marriage. Shouldn't you make these decisions together?

In most things yes. However, if I had not 'taken a lead' when I started my business we wouldn't be in the fortunate position we're in today. There is a case I feel, for sometimes going with one's instincts!

[VTEC_DOHC]

If you are a good husband and you provide well for your family then surely you are entitled to spend a bit extra on what you want?

Try and convince your wife that you work hard and that having a TVR brings you a lot of happiness.

[vixpy1]

I will always spend my money how i see fit. Any woman who even raises the question will not stay in my company very long!

[wedge girl]

We may forgive but we never forget.

Partnerships to me mean sharing, I would never presume to direct or deny my partner his choices but I like to share in them.

[srebbe64]

vixpy1 said:

I will always spend my money how i see fit. Any woman who even raises the question will not stay in my company very long!

Not quite as easy as that when you've made solemn marriage vows and have four kids, I'm afraid to say!

[selmer]

Well done mate. Give yourself a big pat on the back for more than adequately providing for your family and having the good sense to enjoy oneself too. Not to mention charitable actions such as those mentioned. You need commendation not forgiveness.
Enjoy.

[wedge girl]

vixpy1 said:

I will always spend my money how i see fit. Any woman who even raises the question will not stay in my company very long!

and there lies the answer to all your short term relationships.

[just dave]

wedge girl said:

vixpy1 said: I will always spend my money how i see fit. Any woman who even raises the question will not stay in my company very long! and there lies the answer to all your short term relationships.

As the old proverb states:

"Don't marry the woman you think you can live with, marry the one you think you can't live without."

[vixpy1]

wedge girl said:

vixpy1 said: I will always spend my money how i see fit. Any woman who even raises the question will not stay in my company very long! and there lies the answer to all your short term relationships.

We will fight them on the beaches.. we will..

[iandbeech]

Is any of your family going without because of it? From what you`ve said, the answer to that is no - so live a little, you only get one go

Our TVR was my wifes idea After years of always being sensible and making sure the kids are alright, it was our chance to do something rash - and it sure does make us feel alive!

[EmmaP]

vixpy1 said:

I will always spend my money how i see fit. Any woman who even raises the question will not stay in my company very long!

"We're doomed, doomed, positively doomed Mr Mannering." (Best Private James Frazer (John Laurie) accent)

[vixpy1]

My problem is that i can't see myself consulting my wife on money matters on the house, cars etc.
Sure, I'm sure what house we live in, what family car we drive will be her choice as much as mine, but since i'll be paying for it all. I'll always be the one choosing how much money to spend on these things. Which could make her feel reliant on me... which i don't want...


Oh Bugger!

[Fatboy]

vixpy1 said:

I will always spend my money how i see fit.

Must not mention wing'd horse of chav tat.

DOH!

[EmmaP]

vixpy1 said:

My problem is that i can't see myself consulting my wife on money matters on the house, cars etc. Sure, I'm sure what house we live in, what family car we drive will be her choice as much as mine, but since i'll be paying for it all. I'll always be the one choosing how much money to spend on these things. Which could make her feel reliant on me... which i don't want... Oh Bugger!

God Charlie! You need a good shake! What makes you think you'll be paying for everything. This is the 21st century for God's sake. If you think like that my dear boy, I'm afraid you are destined to have a very bad marriage. Best stay single matey!

[vixpy1]

EmmaP said:

God Charlie! You need a good shake! What makes you think you'll be paying for everything. This is the 21st century for God's sake. If you think like that my dear boy, I'm afraid you are destined to have a very bad marriage. Best stay single matey!

I will pay for everything so she does'nt have to pay anything out of her salary, she should enjoy all the money she earns and leave the big payments for me to worry about.. Its stupid for one party to pay a high percentage of thier salary towards these things when the other party can pay easily.

[BliarOut]

EmmaP said:

vixpy1 said: My problem is that i can't see myself consulting my wife on money matters on the house, cars etc. Sure, I'm sure what house we live in, what family car we drive will be her choice as much as mine, but since i'll be paying for it all. I'll always be the one choosing how much money to spend on these things. Which could make her feel reliant on me... which i don't want... Oh Bugger! God Charlie! You need a good shake! What makes you think you'll be paying for everything. This is the 21st century for God's sake. If you think like that my dear boy, I'm afraid you are destined to have a very bad marriage. Best stay single matey!

But he is loaded


Edit: because I'm pissed and can't type for toffee


>> Edited by BliarOut on Saturday 4th December 00:21

[Muncher]

EmmaP said:

Best stay single matey!

He's going the right way


My room to talk is precisely <---> this big!

[trooper1212]

vixpy1 said:

EmmaP said: God Charlie! You need a good shake! What makes you think you'll be paying for everything. This is the 21st century for God's sake. If you think like that my dear boy, I'm afraid you are destined to have a very bad marriage. Best stay single matey! I will pay for everything so she does'nt have to pay anything out of her salary, she should enjoy all the money she earns and leave the big payments for me to worry about.. Its stupid for one party to pay a high percentage of thier salary towards these things when the other party can pay easily.

I'd recommend you stop digging now