Exeter Services - Friday lunchtime
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We were on our way home after a week in Cornwall so decided to stop for a splash and dash/pitstop on our way home. This was at round 1.00pm.
Anywhoo we were fortunate to get a disabled parking spot in front of the entrance so duly put my wife's blue badge up in the windscreen with the time showing and went about our business.
Came out at 1.30-ish and some really brave person had put a note under our windscreen wiper saying - in capital letters - "Selfish b
d"
It's a long shot but if you are on here I have kept your note and would gladly return it to you person! Before that though please be advised that:-
- We have a blue badge and were displaying it.
- My wife has MS which is a regressive muscle wasting disease for which there is no cure currently
- On a good day she can walk; on a really good day she can manage upto 7 minutes very slowly on a flat level surface; on a bad day I have to dress her in the morning.
- We receive no benefits as officially she is not ill enough to get benefits...but she is too ill to work! We have never received one penny piece in terms of support and indeed the blue badge is the only "benefit" we get (and they even tried to take that off her last year as well!!)
- I can only work part time so I can support her but also do not qualify for carers allowance.
So perhaps before putting such cowardly notes on peoples windscreens you may wish to consider that there may be facts that you are unaware of prior to causing huge amounts of personal distress. My wife already has self esteem issues because of her illness without this kind of crap.
Rant over.
PS The holiday was nice 'cept I was ill for most of it with man flu
Anywhoo we were fortunate to get a disabled parking spot in front of the entrance so duly put my wife's blue badge up in the windscreen with the time showing and went about our business.
Came out at 1.30-ish and some really brave person had put a note under our windscreen wiper saying - in capital letters - "Selfish b
d"It's a long shot but if you are on here I have kept your note and would gladly return it to you person! Before that though please be advised that:-
- We have a blue badge and were displaying it.
- My wife has MS which is a regressive muscle wasting disease for which there is no cure currently
- On a good day she can walk; on a really good day she can manage upto 7 minutes very slowly on a flat level surface; on a bad day I have to dress her in the morning.
- We receive no benefits as officially she is not ill enough to get benefits...but she is too ill to work! We have never received one penny piece in terms of support and indeed the blue badge is the only "benefit" we get (and they even tried to take that off her last year as well!!)
- I can only work part time so I can support her but also do not qualify for carers allowance.
So perhaps before putting such cowardly notes on peoples windscreens you may wish to consider that there may be facts that you are unaware of prior to causing huge amounts of personal distress. My wife already has self esteem issues because of her illness without this kind of crap.
Rant over.
PS The holiday was nice 'cept I was ill for most of it with man flu
I dont understand people like that, what had you done to cause anyone to take notice ?
Maybe you cut him up on the way in ?
I cant think of any reason youd get this grief unless you had not displayed the blue badge
My first thought was that you were obviously driving a ferrari..... but nope
Did you park 1cm from his door ?
i dont get it
Maybe you cut him up on the way in ?
I cant think of any reason youd get this grief unless you had not displayed the blue badge
My first thought was that you were obviously driving a ferrari..... but nope
Did you park 1cm from his door ?
i dont get it
LancerG said:
I dont understand people like that, what had you done to cause anyone to take notice ?
Maybe you cut him up on the way in ?
I cant think of any reason youd get this grief unless you had not displayed the blue badge
My first thought was that you were obviously driving a ferrari..... but nope
Did you park 1cm from his door ?
i dont get it
Nor me...Maybe you cut him up on the way in ?
I cant think of any reason youd get this grief unless you had not displayed the blue badge
My first thought was that you were obviously driving a ferrari..... but nope
Did you park 1cm from his door ?
i dont get it
Normal drive in through traffic, nothing out of the ordinary at all. Plenty of space as it was in the yellow zone with extra wide spaces.
I would agree if we hadnt displayed the badge as I too get annoyed by people who park there who do not display.
Not had a note but often get the mutterings as people walk by and see me parking - skinheads can't be disabled y'see. BUT the other night an old dear stopped to admire the car (it's very clean for the first time in a couple of months). Bless her she was walking round it smiling and had a look in through the windows (didn't look like she was about to break in)
A few months back a chap grinned like a loon when I started it up (it growls nicely)
Mostly though it's people muttering... I ignore them now, I used to get angry, really angry, but now I let them be all bitter and twisted and concentrate on living
A few months back a chap grinned like a loon when I started it up (it growls nicely)
Mostly though it's people muttering... I ignore them now, I used to get angry, really angry, but now I let them be all bitter and twisted and concentrate on living
Its not a unique situation, sadly.
I have a good friend who has had some real serious problems with his diabetes - so much so that he has had to have a leg amputated and his sight is virtually gone.
I often take him out for a blast in the Aston as he is still a petrolhead and enjoys the acceleration and the sound it makes.
We had lunch one day at a pub and I parked up in a disabled bay and put his badge up on the screen. Whilst I was helping him out of the car some arsole commented about my parking. I rose above the situation, said nothing and just handed my friend his white stick and helped in to the pub.
Our member of the public had no reply but did look suitably sheepish - basard.
Unfortunately these type of people are out there
I have a good friend who has had some real serious problems with his diabetes - so much so that he has had to have a leg amputated and his sight is virtually gone.
I often take him out for a blast in the Aston as he is still a petrolhead and enjoys the acceleration and the sound it makes.
We had lunch one day at a pub and I parked up in a disabled bay and put his badge up on the screen. Whilst I was helping him out of the car some ars
ole commented about my parking. I rose above the situation, said nothing and just handed my friend his white stick and helped in to the pub.Our member of the public had no reply but did look suitably sheepish - bas
ard.Unfortunately these type of people are out there
Reminds me of a trip to B&Q (other builders merchants are available) 
Dad parked in the disabled bay (Jag xk8). Some snoooty moo moo came up and said that's for disabled people. Yes we know that's why we park there. Blue badge prominently on display. Why shouldn't he drive something nice?
Dad parked in the disabled bay (Jag xk8). Some snoooty moo moo came up and said that's for disabled people. Yes we know that's why we park there. Blue badge prominently on display. Why shouldn't he drive something nice?garfys v8s said:
Perhaps they think disabled people should be driving the light blue three wheelers from the seventies 
The venerable "Thundersley Invacar". Haven't seen one of those for years. They always looked like a mobile deathtrap to me....
It is funny how so many people have preconceived ideas about what people who park in disabled bays should be driving. On a similar note you get the same thing with the parent and child parking spaces. It appears that unless you have a family fun bus or an estate car you are some irresponsible low life who is parking in the wrong place.
I remember stopping at Membury services and pulling into a parent and child spot near the entrance as I needed to change and feed my 1 yr old. As I got out of the Porsche a lady came storming over, shouting that I couldn't park there and that I needed to move as these spaces were reserved for people with kids and not people who couldn't be bothered to walk another 20 metres..... The look on her face was priceless as I casually opened the bonnet pulled out the buggy and walked round to the passenger side to extricate my little boy. As she apologised profusely my boy right on cue looked out of the back seat and said "Hiya!!"
Secondary blue sticker in rear window helps alot 
I've been parked nose-in to disabled bays, in a wheel-chair carrier, and had folks banging on the window and complaining I've had no blue badge on display - they just haven't looked in the corner of the windscreen.
Understandably, other disabled people/drivers of can get very angry when they think a non-disable person is using a bay, and react before double checking.
I've been parked nose-in to disabled bays, in a wheel-chair carrier, and had folks banging on the window and complaining I've had no blue badge on display - they just haven't looked in the corner of the windscreen.
Understandably, other disabled people/drivers of can get very angry when they think a non-disable person is using a bay, and react before double checking.
What is it with these self-appointed Blue Badge checkers? When I pull into a disabled bay in the TVR they're invariably there in droves waiting to have a pop and immediately I get the wheelchair out they slink off looking most disappointed. I just blank them. My advice to the OP: you and your wife have enough on your plate so just ignore them and their obnoxious little notes.
Cheers all 
It's not just me then
It is amazing that if you are young(ish); drive a half decent car or indeed decent car; don't limp; have all your visible body bits on you; then you cannot possibly be disabled
My 15yo lad has a great solution when he sees the self appointed blue badge checkers who subscribe to the above view...he waves the badge at them!
Rest assured I'v moved on as it doesnt look as though the culprit wants to meet up to retrieve their note from me
...but it still does peeve me when non blue badge drivers take spaces away from disabled drivers
It's not just me then
It is amazing that if you are young(ish); drive a half decent car or indeed decent car; don't limp; have all your visible body bits on you; then you cannot possibly be disabled
My 15yo lad has a great solution when he sees the self appointed blue badge checkers who subscribe to the above view...he waves the badge at them!
Rest assured I'v moved on as it doesnt look as though the culprit wants to meet up to retrieve their note from me
...but it still does peeve me when non blue badge drivers take spaces away from disabled drivers
V8S said:
On the other hand, of course, it's good that our society questions those who aren't outwardly disabled who park in the spaces. If we were blasé about it, many more able-bodied people would use the spaces without fear of challenge. Shame keeps the spaces free for those who need them.
Good point oblio said:
V8S said:
On the other hand, of course, it's good that our society questions those who aren't outwardly disabled who park in the spaces. If we were blasé about it, many more able-bodied people would use the spaces without fear of challenge. Shame keeps the spaces free for those who need them.
Good point ks.I can see as a devil's advocate, that some less enlightened would say "Well they've got the money, they can deal with it better," or some such nonsense. I don't think they appreciate that it doesn't matter how much money you've got, it would glady be traded.
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